What does your mother mean to you and why?

Today, when we hear the word “mother”, we think of someone or a women in the 1800’s. The word “mother” has been replaced by “Mom”.

Most children and teenagers these days run hither and thither about their lives, occasionally stopping by at home to play a video game, eat, or go to bed. But other than that, the average kid spends about as little of their time as possible communicating with their parents, and only about 3% is spent actually talking, if at all. They spend their almost all of their time playing with friends and participating in school sports, extra classes, parties, late nights at a friend’s house, and other activities; most are degrading to their character in the most unseemly ways, until finally the parents notice big issues with children such as rebellion, lying, and an unfortunately prevalent case of suicide. Children or teens hardly know their parents. Why? It’s pretty simple. Parents and smaller children in the family just seem to “get in the way” of the “ambitions” of a child.
Most kids don’t realize how much their parents do for them. Habits of ingratitude let us forget about the worries and cares of family, and we think only about our current predicament, such as fussing how 7-year-old Sally spilled toothpaste over new forty-dollar jeans.

Today, most moms in America are absent from homes where they’re needed. Jobs and shopping take the higher priority than helping Johnny with a hard math problem, saying a friendly word to a depressed neighbor, or having a nice dinner ready for Dad when he comes home exhausted from work. While it’s never said like this: “I am a selfish person who enjoys taking pleasure in my own tastes rather than helping others progress.” —it’s more commonly accepted and enjoyable to think about in this frame of mind: “I help others a lot—I cook dinner and I clean the house. I’m usually home a lot after the kids get home from school, and they don’t need me that badly. If dinner isn’t ready they can always order a pizza! My poor nerves are exhausted with the dinner schedule lately. I need a little me-time, to get away from my cares and business. If I don’t ever get away from my house, I’ll be a socially dead hermit! If I stay home all the time, where will I fit in my social life? Besides, if I get some new clothes, it might help improve my mood . . .” and so on. 
My mom is very different from the thousands of “normal” moms out there in this world. Instead of getting a nice job, having a few kids (and sending them off to be “parented” by other teachers), she stayed at home and had nine children, ages 19-3. And her parents weren’t superheroes like The Amazing Wonder-Woman and Daringly Dauntless Dad. Actually, my grandpa died when my mom was six years old, so she didn’t get to grow up with a father-type figure in the home.

My mom homeschooled everybody in our family, and didn’t moan and groan about how “Billy spilled the milk and it ran under the fridge” or “Frank thought lighter fluid was more interesting than playing legos”—or, one of my last common mistakes, “over-watering all the plants in the house which introduced our newest bug problem—whitefly—indoors.” *smile*

President Ezra Taft Benson stated:
“It is a fundamental truth that the responsibilities of motherhood cannot be successfully delegated. No, not to day-care centers, not to schools, not to nurseries, not to babysitters. We become enamored with men’s theories such as the idea of preschool training outside the home for young children. Not only does this put added pressure on the budget, but it places young children in an environment away from mother’s influence. Too often the pressure for popularity, on children and teens, places an economic burden on the income of the father, so mother feels she must go to work to satisfy her children’s needs. That decision can be most shortsighted. It is mother’s influence during the crucial formative years that forms a child’s basic character. Home is the place where a child learns faith, feels love, and thereby learns from mother’s loving example to choose righteousness. How vital are mother’s influence and teaching in the home—and how apparent when neglected!”
Sometimes I do not realize that I have such a caring mom. I like to be picky and criticize everything in the system that doesn’t go my way, which is not what I should be doing.

Most of go around on our day-to-day lives thinking about school, fun activities we like to do, shopping, day-dreaming, playing with friends, clothes, hobbies, hair, the next math assignment, and a hundred other projects. Maybe we should take a second to pause and think about the last time your mom gave up one of the aforementioned things to help you. I think we’ve all had times where we realize that Mom did something to help us, and we forgot to say thank-you. Did Mom unplug your hair straightener before you left for church? Say thank you. Maybe she helped finish dinner so you could go outside and play basketball when you got your work done late. Who cleans up the gross mess when someone gets sick and throws up? Mom. Or maybe she helped you submit an art contest submission—the day it was due . . . at 10:00 p.m. . . .
The point is, lots of kids today don’t think much about (or care) how their Mom’s feel. We should be thinking about one of the ultimate examples of motherhood in the scriptures—Mary, the mother of Christ. Wouldn’t we be honored if an angel appeared to our Mom and said, “The Lord is pleased with you.”?
Luke 1:28 “. . . Hail, thou that art highly favoured, the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women.”
President Brigham Young said:
“If you, mothers, will live your religion, then in the love and fear of God teach your children constantly and thoroughly in the way of life and salvation, training them up in the way they should go, when they are old they will not depart from it. I promise you this; it is as true as the shining sun; it is an eternal truth.”
Below I wrote the top ten reasons why I am very blessed to have a Mom like mine:

1.      She doesn’t try, she does
2.      She respects my Dad’s decisions
3.      She is patient with all of us kids, who are extremely un-normal in a worldly sense :D
4.      She works hard--she makes sure the bills are paid on time and stuff gets done.
5.      She feeds us healthy food—it costs a lot more, too!
6.      She takes time to talk to us
7.      She talks to us after an argument to get problems cleared up
8.      She never takes a break from work when she’s sick unless she has to lay down.
9.      She keeps her clothes nice and tidy in the closet—she is a good organizer
10.  She does not waste time on herself—I don’t ever remember seeing her watch TV or go shopping for fun

I hope we take a little bit of time and start thinking about how much our Moms help us and how much they mean to us.


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